No Problem.. I forgive you..

I know this reminds you of ‘The Suzuki Samurai’ add.. but it certainly is an important one to practice.. I usually do.. its only occasionally when “I’m more of me in a moment” (its when you’re practically thinking about just your self.).

Ok, so what I want to make you understand is, that, there are situations, when there’s a mistake by someone, may be at the swimming pool while you’re learning, somebody hits you.. its a mistake, may be in the cafeteria, your tea/coffee spills coz of someone, we get angry, not noticing the fact that it was a mistake, it could happen with any body, it could be you for someone else at some other point of time.. the key thing here is to smile back kindly and say its fine. So that they don’t get hurt for a mistake which happened un-knowingly. If you’re thinking about some person who was rude to you or behaved ill-mannerly to you just out of jealousy/ego, to those I have the answer of forgiveness, just smile back at ‘em and forget about it, believe you me, some point or the other in their life, they’ll feel guilty for it. If a pig is playing in the mud.. doesn’t mean we jump in the mud and fight with the Pig, believe me the Pig will be a more dirty player coz its his game.. not ours..

We are distinguished by our nature and by our actions, not by matching up the Piggy’s standard..

Trial is better than denial..

Well its pretty important to try things until you get perfect in doing ‘em.. even if you’re doing it for the first time.. you have to start at some point don’t you? I mean you sure did go to the school for the first time.. you sure read that first page of the book you heard a lot about.. sure did join that class/training you so wanted to know to learn and master the skill you thought was necessary for you to have it.. or may be you though it would be just cool if you had it.. you sure took the first lesson at driving.. didn’t you?

In life there are a lot of things we wanna do… sure we’re time bound.. and at times we’re scared of things which are new.. but.. just cause you are scared to lack perfection.. or are not ready to experiment and experience something new.. you won’t do it? seriously?

Nope you should go for it.. if you’re scared of something or lack the courage to do.. to try.. what you wanna do for the first time.. just think of the worst case.. and think how’ll you tackle it.. and you sure will be able to to that with all that you know and have.. and believe you me.. it’ll give you the trust to start.. and to keep trying.. keep trying until you get perfect in it.. until you achieve it.. if you’re denying it coz you are scared.. you ain’t gonna do that ever.. you ain’t gonna get it.. so remember.. Trial is better than denial.. so keep trying.. go for it..

Be the Monk who holds his Ferrari..

Well this insight came in recently when I recovered from a dangerous road accident, it was the second in past two months, dunno whether the time was not right or what was it, but I’m fine, I’ve recovered and I’m stronger than ever.. you know instances like this occur everyday to someone somewhere,to us/ someone we don’t know. What’s important for us is to learn from these and get back up quickly. I’m not saying that it was our fault that it happened, there could be a hell lot of reasons.. may be its our fault.. may be its’ not.. I know you’re thinking whether it was my fault during the accident.. no it wasn’t.. , the most import thing to learn/focus on during such faces are below three :

1. Know your part in it, good/bad.

2. Recover and get back the strength

3. Move forward, faster than before.

You need to know if there was something wrong you did that caused it, focus on getting your health back, such things happen, set backs come and go, leave you experienced, you need not sell everything and run away, you sure do need to take rest and get your strength back to change the things that didn’t work out for you. While taking rest to recover from one such incident, purely rest, do nothing else, it’ll help you recover fast, watch movies, eat, sleep, roam around, have fun, it gives your brain a refreshment too. When this happened with me I was thinking, we all do, thought of selling few of my priced possessions, but then I contemplated and said to myself, I’m not a guy who runs away, I’ve worked hard to earn these, I can’t let go off ‘em just coz life gave me a set-back, naah.. I’m not a person like that  and my purpose is to grow,exceed, be fearless, so I’m gonna hold on to all of that.. B-)

Be the “Monk who holds his Ferrari” , Keep rocking.

Its not just about one thing..

Here what I wanna say is and make you understand is.. that whatever you do.. don’t be obsessed with something.. you know life is really way too expensive to spend it all behind just one thing.. I mean whatever it may be.. love, money, success, peace, self improvement, you name it.. every single thing in isolation is of no use in particular.. life is like a dream house which you keep on building until you make it perfect or call it ideal.. ya I know.. nothing is perfect.. but atleast you could try making it reach closer to what you’ve dreamed of.. I mean okay.. so let me take it this way.. you’ve dreamed of being an all Money man.. but lemme tell you.. it won’t work.. I mean once you have that.. if you see.. you’ll be lonely.. or if you’ve people around.. they’ll be after the money.. few blessed.. not most.. and I certainly think many can relate to this.. so why not focus on everything.. every single thing you want there to be.. take small steps.. toward everything.. if not all.. at least two things at a time… its short and its running.. now its your part to get hold of it and carve it into what you want..

The other face of being obsessed about one thing.. is that you miss out on every other thing.. and you lose on life.. and later you realize.. you neither did get that.. nor can you get the time you wasted back.. or even if you get that.. It can’t help you get back the things/relations/whatever in your life.. also the bad thing about focusing on just one thing.. yeah not talking the task in hand.. its about life.. so the bad part by the wrong object in focus grows into you as a rage..negativity and a lot of dark shades.. which ain’t helping anybody… neither will it in the coming time.. so its this moment… this fine moment.. rush up charlie.. make it the way you want it or you think it’ll be best.. but keep the objects of focus straight and not confused.. stay blessed.

Pitch Perfect..

Awesome movie first of all.. usually like rom-coms but this one’s a musical comedy… although didn’t laugh much, was just smiling, but it was touchy, the things to learn are pretty cool-ly based out.. well, we grow on our passion, we live for it, it makes us better, but also makes us alone, I can relate to that.. pretty close, or I’d say may be more than that… usually don’t walk upto new people, m not too outgoin, have changed myself a lot in past few years, still not that outgoin.. well, so we actually become so focused on our passion that we forget to live, I know I seem to be kinda speaking a known thing but I’m gonna push it differently, so that all of you who are reading it.. take it in, easily.. (now don’t think nasty ), the idea is to make it clear by an example to which you can relate.

We shouldn’t be taking people for granted, just coz they care, neither should we be controlling coz we’ve been controlled pretty harsh in the past, both of these don’t work and fail in the long run, hurts you from inside, its grows as an incurable cancer, trust me on that!!

We push people out and we keep doing that coz we think that’s easy, we can become a lead, a front liner as the focus on the passion makes us capable of it, but remember to lead a team you’ve to become a part of it, you have to pour your learning’s out and help everybody learn and grow based on it this is called pitching perfect!!!

Keep rocking..!!

Margin of safety.. OR Margin of risk..

I’ve seen people, met people who like to analyzing things before they go for it, reading “The Warren Buffet way” these days, read a concept proposed by Ben Graham called “Margin Of Safety”, it basically means ‘one should buy a stock when it is worth more than its price on the market’ , now apply it to routine life, or lets elaborate it first, it says you shall buy a stock when its current value is below its intrinsic value or the price you presume it’ll land on in the market.. i.e., you know you have your profits safe, even if you buy it at a certain price it may not go further below or even if it goes.. it shall come back up as your buying it when its cheaper than its worth.. people who do the feasibility analysis, they keep back-up plans, they keep a margin of safety, estimate costs, spend wisely, act wisely.. I’d say not bad, you’re great, you are achieving consistently, and if not which is rather the case, you stay safe.. but I’ve also seen such a common trend in these people averting to take risks.. which certainly keeps ‘em small…

Taking risks enhances your confidence in yourself, in your abilities, in your approach, not that you bet everything on it, keep a margin of safety on the risks that you take.. but take risks, jump-in/bump-in and feel it, helps you reach the next level, you’ll do things you never thought you could do, feel it.. I know its easy to say hard to make it.. I myself am a work in progress, but at some or the other point you have to star.

Draw a margin to the risk, its now or never, let yourself free, keep a boundary line that shall keep you safe on loosing out everything you’ve earnt and hit it.. hit the road, make it possible.. you can do it..!!!

Feed-Back – Its important..!!

May be you get it from the person who rated you on something, or you do it  for yourself, stepping into the shoes of the jury of the act. Either positive or negative its of utter importance in each case, the former helps you boost your confidence whereas the later gives you the areas of improvement.

Not saying that you really need a confirmation for something you believe in, is good for others or helps others in someway, but at some point or the other it feels good to know that what we did actually helped someone in some or the other manner.

Wondering “How negative feed-backs are important? These are words full of criticism, would be totally depressing, how could it be good?” , I’d say, it ain’t depressing, its a glass view of your actions, from others perspective, as in how they saw you doing it, its about what you missed, where you missed and how it would have been better.

Based on personal experiences, there are cases where-in you’ve left no chance of being mediocre or the second best and still you don’t reach where you ought to be.. these cases have a common thing called ‘circumstances’, just keep hitting, you’ll cross it some day and the best part, the next time, you’ll be better than before..